• What is Counselling?

     

    Nearly everyone goes through periods in their lives when they feel low or are unable to cope. At these times it can be helpful to talk to someone who will listen and provide suppport. Counselling provides time and space for people to talk about any problems, worries, difficulties or dilemmas they might be having.

    Life can be challenging and we can all experience overwhelming and difficult emotions such as stress, anxiety, grief and depression.

    Psychotherapy and counselling can offer a means of expressing and understanding these emotions which can help you overcome them and work towards a more balanced and healthy life.

    You can come along to counselling on your own, as a couple, a family, and at any age. If you are under 16 years you need parental permission.

    Couples

    Relationship counselling helps you to make the most of your relationships, past, present or future. I am not here to only help with the major crises in people’s relationships. I can be the first source of help when people face divorce or separation; affairs or major conflict. I am also here for the worries that might seem trivial or minor. Even if things are going perfectly for you, counselling can help keep things that way. It can help you to find the support that is best for you and at a time to fit in with your life.

    Individuals

    Individual counselling is a one to one relationship between the client and the therapist. Where the client talks about the problems they are experiencing. The Client is in control of the session and will decide what they would like to discuss.

    Children

    Children can be referred to counselling by their GP, School, Social Services and Parents. This can be a variety of reasons, bereavement, family seperation, peers, bullying, eating disorders, drugs, phobias, self harming and so on. Therapists specialising in children counselling can be based in schools, NHS properties, private or part of an agency. How a therapist works with a child will vary depending on their cognative ability aproaches include play therapy or simply talking.

    Families

    Family counselling helps you to understand and cope better with the stresses and strains of family life. Families can be a source of support, encouragement and love but sometimes relationships within families are put under strain and family members feel isolated or overlooked. Family counselling can help when siblings aren’t getting on, or when parents and children are having difficulties such as divorce or separation. Forming a new family is a challenge. Every family member will have a voice and be heard in our sessions.

    Dr John McLeod described counselling like this: “Counselling is a wonderful twentieth-century invention. We live in a complex, busy, changing world. In this world, there are many different types of experience that are difficult for people to cope with. Most of the time we get on with life, but sometimes we are stopped in our tracks by an event or situation that we do not, at that moment, have the resources to sort out”. If we cannot find ways to sort this out in our family, with our friends, or with a priest or doctor, etc., then “Counselling is a really useful option at these moments”. John McLeod, An Introduction to Counselling, 2003.

     

    Providing Counselling Service to Tonbridge, Tunbridge Wells, Paddock Wood, Maidstone and Kent,